Why Do Women Get Shamed If They Try To Lose Weight?
The internet went aflame recently and negatively towards Lizzo. Since her day one she has unashamedly flaunted her “big girlness”. She gave big girl’s hope and inspiration and she continues to do the same. She openly posted recently her mental frustration of not being pleased with her looks and the whole self-esteem thing. As women, we all have those days, times, months and summers!
A few days after Lizzo shared that post she posted about being on a detox. People went ballistic automatically assuming Lizzo was detoxing to lose weight. Lizzo jumped back on the internet to explain she has been overeating and eating a lot of spicy foods and needed to get it out of her system. Now, just because a women is not ashamed of her size does it mean society will hold her to remain that size forever?
Danielle Brooks took to IG to share her current body. After a year like 2020 everyone gained weight or is gaining weight. Danielle explained how she was embarassed to post herself because she has not lost her weight from carrying her daughter then she added weight during this pandemic. She decided to speak out in defense of Lizzo that if a plus size girl decides she wants to lose weight she should not be stoned because she doesn’t want to get “the sugars”. Your thoughts?
As someone who coined the phrase #voiceofthecurves I’ve muted my voice for a few months now out of shame. I felt shameful of gaining weight. Even though I brought a whole human into the world, I still felt shameful because I wasn’t able to maintain my normal body weight post- pregnancy. And a year later i have only lost roughly 20lbs of a 60lb weight gain. I was quiet in hopes to post that snatch back photo like so many celebrities miraculously do. But that’s not my story. Just like Lizzo, and so many other “fat” girls we should be allowed to make healthy choices publicly without being made to feel like frauds for trying to be healthy. I feel it’s important to share the journey, as a reminder that we are not alone, we ain’t always got it together, and that we are ALL works in progress.
So I’m sharing. I’m doing all kinds of diets, cleanses, making all kinds healthy choices. Not because I don’t love myself now, but because I DO love myself, my body and my mind. Bc I want to continue to feel strong and sexy without catching “the sugars” or any other disease. It’s okay showing the in between of growth. You ain’t always gotta have it all the way together. Just speaking from the heart.❤️ ~Danie.