Although talking about sex with your daughters — masturbation, in particular — can seem taboo at first, a lot of insight can come out of an honest conversation. In her Facebook Watch show Red Table Talk, Jada Pinkett Smith decided to speak openly about it with her 17-year-old daughter, Willow, and her best friend Telana Lynum. Her own mother, Adrienne Banfield Norris, was also right by her side.
Jada said that it was actually her grandmother who introduced her to the art of masturbation at a young age — because you shouldn’t have to rely on a man for such things.
“She didn’t want me to fall into the hands of a man, and if he gave me pleasure, to think that that was him.”
“My grandmother taught me about self-pleasuring because she wanted me to know that that pleasure was from me,” she said. “She didn’t want me to fall into the hands of a man, and if he gave me pleasure, to think that that was him. And she taught me at 9!”
She also got pretty candid about her affinity for self-pleasure early on — to the point that she admitted to being addicted to the feeling.
“I actually think I went through kind of an addiction, too, with it,” said Jada. “And then one day, I was like, ‘Enough. You’re having five orgasms a day.'”
Adrienne Banfield Norris spoke about how she used to feel ashamed about having sex because women are often taught they shouldn’t enjoy it at all.
“The demons in the back of my mind are telling me, ‘No, you shouldn’t be doing that,’ and ‘No, good girls don’t enjoy sex’ . . . over time you realize, ‘hey,'” she said.